Why is support such a hard word to comprehend?

I’ve been thinking a lot about support recently.

We, the chronically ill, think about it all the time to be honest. We lay in our beds, or sit uncomfortably in our chairs, just wondering when we will have enough.

The ladies in my support groups get it. We can talk all day about the lack of support we get from our own doctors, friends, family members, even spouses. Some of us have been sick for many years, and yet we always are surprised by the painful sting of the lack of understanding around us.

And it’s not like our disease is uncommon. You can find a wealth of information online regarding the disease and its symptoms. Rheumatoid Disease is unfortunately common, I know at least four other people with varying stages of it. So, I find it fairly ridiculous when I’m faced with comments from people I know, saying “Oh I don’t really know much.” Yet, these are the same people that feel the need to lecture me on how I could be cured if I started yoga and went gluten free. *insert eye roll here*

Just for the record (in case you’re a new reader), I have tried so many diets, workout routines, and herbal treatments. I’ve tried acupuncture, CBD oil, vitamins, spiritual healing, magic moon rocks, I mean I could go on for ages…

When you are as sick as I am, trust me when I say this, you will do anything and try anything. I never asked to be sick, this wasn’t in my life plan. Do you think when I was young I dreamed about one day being 37 and unemployed? Do you think I imagined dealing with pain day to day that was so bad that most medications in the world don’t work for me? Do you think I hoped to have such a debilitating disease that it scared away most men in my life, leaving me often single and lonely?

No. The answer is no.

I have tried everything in my power to find something, anything, that would work. So, once again I am here pleading with people to not be bad friends to your sick friends. They don’t need your judgement. You will not and cannot ever understand what they go through day to day, unless you’ve experienced it yourself.

The best support is just being there. You promise to show up, then show up. If you promise to listen, then listen. Be supportive by understanding that what we are going through is something difficult for us. That we didn’t ask for this life, but that we struggle through it every day. And we want to be better.

A women in one of my support groups is realising that her husband is not the man she thought. He is very unsupportive of her struggle, and instead of trying to uunderstand, he checks out. This is not the support we want or need. Spouses and family members may have it the hardest, it’s true. They see us at our most vulnerable, at our weakest moments. The best way to support us through that is to just BE THERE. Don’t make it about yourself, your needs, why it affects you. We know it affects you. But we need you to be strong for us because sometimes we can’t be strong for ourselves.

This last month was a hard one for me. I was in the hospital for pneumonia, an ailment which I’m still recovering from. During the worst of it I cracked My ribs on both sides from all the coughing. It has been a hard month of pain on my body, and a very slow road to wellness.

Because of the multiple hospital stays I’ve had within the last six month, my mother and I decided to move in together. It seemed the best way to give support to each other. We move this weekend.

Now obviously I don’t have to tell you how painful it is to move with broken ribs. Packing has been a nightmare. The last two times I’ve moved I was in a romantic relationship. Now that I am single again I am reminded how hard it is to do things like this without the support of a partner.

So, I took to Facebook and asked if any friends could help me with the move.

I was shocked at the lack of response. During the best times I’ve always had close friends offer help if I need it. But when I call in that offer? Crickets…..

At the same time, a friend who I don’t know very well, stepped up. Not only offering her help, but also that of her partner. It’s times like these when I feel my faith in humanity gets restored bit by bit.

But I’m still disappointed.

I am a giver. I will give and give until I have nothing, if only to ensure the comfort and well being of others. I know this about myself and I know it has been overly taxing on me before. Especially in the midst of me living day to day with the illness that consumes me. But I will always offer help, and give whatever I can. That’s how I was raised.

It’s taken me many years to realise that not everyone is the same. Some people take. Some people are only present when it suits their needs. Some people are flaky. And honestly, some people just don’t care. And it can take you a while to really figure that out for yourself. I’m 37 years old and I still hold on to the hope that everyone cares the same degree that I do.

I’m an optimist, what can I say?

I guess the point to my litany is to be self aware. Be supportive to those who need it. Be a good friend, spouse, family member. Give what you can, not just take. Try to understand what it’s like to walk in the shoes of others. Listen. Care. Be.

Mulling Over A Dream

It was quiet when my eyes were closed. It was when I could be at peace despite my world falling to pieces. I could be in the middle of a crowded room, or in busy store, or even now, as I lay on this cold bed in the middle of the local emergency room… With my eyes closed, I could shut the ugliness of the world out, maybe even pretend I was well again.

Not even a week had passed of 2018, and here I was with an IV in my arm, my mom sleeping next to me in a cold hospital chair. As per usual, no one had any idea what was wrong with me. A fate I had grown accustomed to. Leaving five hours later with a prescription for painkillers I’d never fill, and a suggestion to “get some rest”.

My problem is I can never get enough rest. Not if I want to attempt to have a life by any standards. I can’t sleep my life away afterall.

So in that hospital bed I lay with my eyes closed, waiting for no news. And in that quietness I fell asleep, mulling over a dream. A dream I’ve had many times. One that I know now will unlikely come true. Not so much a dream, but more of a memory…

The last memory of my other life.

The life I had before this was all I knew.

A life that wasn’t filled with medications, cold hospital rooms, and the constant threat of more pain, more fatigue, and a new diagnosis every six months.

Furthermore, a life where I would find someone who loved me for me. Where they wouldn’t look at me and see broken. Where they would marry me no matter how many years we may have together. A life with choices, and maybe children.

It was a good dream. But eventually I woke up and opened my eyes… Back to the cold hospital bed, to the doctor telling me she could do no more. Back to my reality.

I slept for a long while that day, once I had climbed back into my own bed, and my mom departed for the long trip home. I was used to this aftermath of hospital visits. Used to the bed rest, dehydration, and exhaustion that inevitably followed. Used to the loneliness, the unbearable loneliness that came with my disease.

But this time something new followed, I was not so alone. He came with food, and hugs, and the support I needed to get through it without falling apart. And in the days that followed, I realised his love allowed me to mull over a new dream.

Support Isn’t A Competition.

I read a great quote online yesterday, which prompted me to write this blog today. It was one of those posters that Word Porn posts daily on my Facebook feed, and instead of scrolling down past it like I do usually, this one caught my eye. Here it is…


This one really spoke to me, because I feel like I deal with this on a regular basis due to the nature of my disease. And this particular statement I feel like I’ve literally been living.

Rheumatoid Disease has plagued my body for three and a half years now. Endless years, it seems sometimes, that I’ve dealt with this indescribable pain, whom no one can fix. I’ve tried so many medical treatments, pharmaceutical and homeopathic. I’ve attempted every fad diet out there, all proclaiming to be the “cure-all” for my disease. You name it, and I bet I’ve tried it! Even going as far as using essential oils, sleeping with healing rocks, and attempting to meditate the pain away.

I have spent countless hours in frigid medical offices, waiting for yet another “check-up” appointment. Or another visit where my doctor will inform me that now do I not only have the worst case of Rheumatoid Disease for someone my age in Hawaii, but also of all their colleagues’ patients on the mainland as well. Gee, that’s some great news, I’ve always wanted to be the best at something. I could never have imagined it would be concerning a debilitating, incurable disease. I’m so lucky!

I’ve spent more time with my Rheumatologist and PCP than I have with some of my closest friends. Truth be told, that could also be said for most of my family members as well. And I’m not saying that’s something bad, it’s just my reality. My week’s schedule is usually broken down in three main priorities: first comes doctors appointments, then work related training/events/prospecting, then family time, and friends and social engagements can be worked in after that.

If you really look at my priorities, you can also see how important my health is to me. I’m 34, about to be 35 in one month. I don’t want my disease to define me, and to accomplish that, I need to work hard at finding a way to coexist with it. I have to figure out how to live with my disease in a way where it doesn’t rule my life and dictate who I am as a person. And to do that, I am 100% committed to finding a medical treatment plan that works for me.

My second priority is my financial independence. I now receive a small monthly siphon from Social Security, but it is nowhere near enough to live off of. So I had to find a part time job that I could do without hurting myself, or worsening my disease. That came in the form of direct sales with Rodan + Fields, which fortunately fits my needs perfectly. I work from home, hell, most days I work from bed, and I make my own hours. I’m my own boss, and have no one above me causing me stress. It’s almost completely social media and word of mouth based, and works perfectly with my retail background. I’ve only just started, so I’m not making any real money yet, but I will in time, and I’ll be financially secure for my future. And the best part is that I love my job. I love helping people, and making them happy. So, really, it’s a Win/Win.

My third priority is my family. No matter what is going on in one’s life, it’s always nice to have family to fall back on. Spending time with both sides of mine (I was a child of divorce, so I get two), is something I try to make time for regularly. Now, I’m not saying that my family relationships are perfect, far from it. But at the end of the day your family doesn’t change. You don’t get to swap them out if you have a fight, or don’t see eye to eye. With family you’re committed to the good, the bad, and the ugly. And I have dealt with all of those memories from both sides of mine.

Although, this is where the aforementioned quote comes in to play.

I understand that dealing with people with disease is hard for some. Knowing a friend, or even an acquaintance, who is going through an intense medical situation can be tough. Even dealing with a lesser medical situation, like maybe reoccurring headaches or acid reflux, can be hard for some to process. We don’t know how to react, or how much empathy or sympathy to have. It’s daunting for some people to deal with those who are sick. And even more so if we are talking about incurable diseases, cancer, or any other life threatening medical issue.

In my own medical journey I’ve actually lost friends because of my illness. Not because they were scared of “catching it”, Rheumatoid Disease isn’t contagious. But mostly because they were at a loss of how to handle it. They didn’t understand the disease, and why I was so sick, and why after all my treatments I wasn’t getting better. And instead of asking me about it, and attempting to understand what I was going through, or asking how they could be supportive, they instead pulled away. Yes, it initially hurt my feelings, but at the end of the day I have learned that I’d rather surround myself with supportive people. People who want to be in my life, not those who feel they have to be. I think that goes for pretty much everyone, healthy or not.

I’ve personally found, though, that support can be a double-edged sword. You would think that anyone going through an intense illness, like mine, would welcome support of any kind. Through the assumption that any help at all is still helpful, right? WRONG. Support and help is only helpful if it comes from a good place. However, in my personal experience, support is often not without strings.

I welcome and appreciate any kind of support towards my person, my illness, my newfound career, and my journey in general, as long as that support is given freely. What I mean by this is that it’s given without expectations of a reward, or a guilt-laden reciprocation. Just like the quote says, “I don’t engage in acts of kindness to be rewarded later,” I don’t want to receive support with strings attached. An example of this might be a ‘You scratch my back, I’ll scratch your back scenario”. Or making comments like, “Well I helped you with that one thing last week, so….”

No one wants to feel like they’re being used. But expectations put on support is just that. It’s support with strings attached, and I don’t want any part of that. If you need help with something, just ask. But thinly veiling it as “support” basically makes the receiver feel like shit.

If you want to do something nice for me, or anyone, then do it. Not to get something back from it, or to make yourself feel better by showing others how “supportive” you are. If you want to be seen as a good person, then do good things. And leave it at that. Be kind. Be generous. Be good. Not for others. For YOU.

Giving me support in my illness isn’t a competition on who can do it better. The best way to support me while I’m going through this hell is to just be there. Ask me how I am. Ask me if there’s anything you can do. Ask me if I need help. Ask me if I need a ride somewhere. And listen when I tell you. Listen to what I’m saying to understand, not to reply.

I feel like everything has become a lie recently. Like suddenly I’m this vessel to be used to make others look and feel better. Like “Hey, did you notice, I’m being supportive?” Or, “Look at this picture I posted of me being so supportive!”

Supporting me isn’t a competition. I’m a human being, dealing with an incurable, debilitating disease. I’m just trying to make it through each day, each week, and each month, without landing back in the hospital. I just want a life I can be proud of, and get up for each and every day. Want to feel good about yourself, too? Do something good without thinking about who it benefits, and I’ll continue to do the same.



When doctors let you down

For most patients with serious diseases and illnesses, doctors are our calm in the storm. They are the pillars for which we lean on when our resolves are shaky and our optimism needs a recharge. We put a lot of faith in our doctors, especially if they are specialists, working on our main concerns, looking for a cure.

But what happens when the people we put so much faith in fail us? Who do we turn to when our pillars start to fall?

I have a chronic pain disease, as most people know. Unlike many patients with Rheumatoid Disease, I don’t just rely on 2-3 doctors. Most RA patients usually have a main doctor or PCP (primary care physician), a Rheumatologist, and maybe also a pain management doctor, for those with severe pain.
I have 14 doctors whom I see at least on a monthly basis. I won’t bore you with all the titles, but besides the first three I mentioned I also have an Oncologist, a Pain Therapist, a Podiatrist, and an Infectious Diseases Specialist, just to name a few. They are my team, and the people I rely on the most to keep me healthy and keep me alive.

Over the last year my illness has taken on a life of its own. My disease has become extremely aggressive and has stumped even my primary doctors. No one is quite sure which route to take as my body continually rejects rheumatoid arthritis medications and pain relievers. The danger in this of course is without proper medication I could get even sicker and be consumed by even more pain to the point where I could be wheelchair bound, bed ridden, and the very worse case scenario… die.
It’s been a very intense and scary time. About eight months ago some of my doctors realised the pain meds I was on were just not cutting it and referred me to the next best course of action: an intrathecal pain pump. The pump would effectively be healthier than me chomping a bunch of oral opiates each day to control my pain. It’s surgically implanted in my hip with a catheter that attaches to my spine and directs liquid pain medication directly into my spinal fluid. It’s a much more controlled delivery method, it’s safer, and it’s healthier on my body.

Unfortunately, since I don’t have social security yet, and the access to Medicare that goes with it, I’m on state funded insurance. And a lot of doctors, especially the specialists, do not accept that form of insurance. This puts me between a rock and a hard place. Obviously I need the help, but it’s hard when that help is severely limited.

Where my pain therapist is concerned, however, I got really lucky. He took my case on as “charity” and is one of my best doctors. Not only does he help me with dealing with the psychological aspects of chronic pain, but also my mortality, how I interact with others, and how to stay optimistic when every part of my body is telling me to give up. He even goes out of his way too help refer me to other doctors, and introduced me to my Social Security lawyer.

Included in this group of referrals was a doctor I met with yesterday. At first, no doctors were willing to accept my insurance. My therapist spent many days and hours on the phone calling offices, asking doctors to take my case, before finally finding one. He of course wants the best medical care for me and sent me off happily to my evaluation, certain that a good outcome was imminent. He couldn’t have known how wrong it would end up.

A big issue I have faced often with my disease is that it’s an “invisible illness”. Unless I’m using my cane, or someone looks closely at the inflammation in my hands and feet, you can’t tell that I suffer from a severe disease. I look totally normal when I’m in horrifying pain. And Rheumatoid Arthritis is a fickle disease. You never know which days will be your bad or good. I was in the ER on Saturday, laying there thinking I was going to die, and on Tuesday I woke up with minimal pain. Which is what the referral doctor saw when I went in for my consult yesterday.

Now when you meet new doctors you always hope for the best. You hope the doctor will be understanding to your condition, see the pain you’re in, and evaluate accordingly. However, there are also doctors, like in any other profession, that become jaded. And in the chronic pain world, this can be due to scam artists. People who say they are in pain but are just looking for drugs, and their next fix. People who cry wolf, begging for sympathy, who either aren’t sick, or are but talk up their symptoms to get better quality meds and or attention. These kind of people ruin it for patients like me.

Unfortunately, the doctor I met with yesterday, was of this jaded variety. She judged me within ten seconds of walking in the door. Her manner was rude, mean, and ineffective. She stressed many times that she didn’t think I was as sick as I stated, only because I happened to feel good that day. There were many thinly veiled references to why I wanted stronger medications and she didn’t listen to anything I had to say. I left the office feeling used and abused. No patient should have to feel belittled by a doctor whom they are seeing for help. She made me feel dirty, and it was very clear she thought I was some sort of heroin addict.

When I left the office I was in such a state of shock that I couldn’t talk. I walked outside and proceeded to take great gulps of air, trying to still my shaking hands and calm my rattled nerves. I drank my entire bottle of water, feeling like my mouth was sandpaper. And finally when I had recovered, I was livid. How dare I be talked to like I was some common criminal, and not a seriously ill patient with a severe disease. And by a medical professional who specializes in chronic pain no less. I was beyond disappointed, I felt shame for that doctor.

We put so much faith in these medical professionals, because they have fancy degrees on their walls, and they worked the time to make it as doctors. But a MD certificate on the wall does not guarantee greatness, and it certainly does not guarantee a good attitude. As patients we have to remember that while they often hold our lives in their hands, they aren’t gods. They are people just like us. And just like the rest of the population, there are definitely some bad seeds, and we need to remember that.



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Friday Morning

My cats are meowing. I can’t see them because my eyes are still closed, but I can hear them. Please, please, please don’t be a bug. I open my eyes at the exact moment that my body registers the pain.
OMG. This is a 15/10 at least.
Damn, I need to pee. This is going to suck.
I push the bed covers off with the back of my hand. My fingers are swollen and stuck in the position of a claw. They look deformed and I shudder at the thought that those days are fast approaching. I push off the bed and cry out in pain as my knees scream. I hobble to the bathroom and take two deep breaths in before sitting on the toilet seat. My knees are purple and huge.  It takes me ten minutes to psyche myself into standing up again. The tears fall as I hobble back to bed.

I’m going to take my morning meds now. Maybe they will kick in while I finish sleeping and I’ll wake feeling good. Maybe.

Aureus is on the bed next to my head, meowing. He wants his morning can of wet food I assume. I open my eyes and the pain is still there. Sorry Kitty, Mom isn’t getting up for that just yet.

I need to pee again. Damn it. Pain is still bad, maybe a 13/10. Why haven’t my morning meds kicked in yet?
I stumble to the bathroom, crying out in pain as I sit on the seat. This time though, I can’t get up. The pain is too strong. I sit there for several minutes, breathing in and out, in and out. I try to stand up and come crashing down.
I lean my forehead against the wall, taking deeper breaths, knowing I’m just going to have to get up, no matter how bad the pain is.
I stand. I scream.
God I hope my neighbors didn’t hear.
This time I hobble to the kitchen and plug the cats water fountain in. I fill their bowl with dry kitty food and hobble back to bed. I fall in, not bothering to cover myself and pass out in exhausted pain.

My body must know I can call my Rheumatologist now, his office opens at 8. I must see him today. Only he can tell me how to get through this pain.
The nurse on the phone tells me he has no availability to see me. I ask what to do and she says she doesn’t know.
Well, thanks, that’s very helpful. She says I can come next week. Well, gee, I hope I’m still alive next week. Because at this moment it feels like my body is shutting down.
I take another 2.5mg of Prednisone. I just need to be able to move. Please, please kick in soon.

I’m so thirsty. I hobble to the kitchen but I can’t open the fridge door. The magnet is too strong. Instead I attempt to open a bottle of water from on top my fridge instead. I can’t. I have no strength in my fingers. Shit.
I go for the fridge again. Screaming in pain and frustration I get it open. With two hands I pull the carton of milk out, praying it doesn’t slip between my grasp. I pour a glass of milk and get a straw to drink it with.
Finally. Thirst quenched.
God I’m hot. And itchy. I wonder if ill be able to wash my hair in the shower today. My hands still stuck like claws. It’s hard to squeeze the shampoo bottle on days like this.

I must have fallen asleep again. Why does everything hurt so much? I have to pee again. My knees are so mad at me.
My cats meow at me from the floor. I try to stand but fall back down on the toilet seat again.
I need help.
This is too much pain for me to handle.
I need help.

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Showing Love For All The Right Reasons

Today I received my fourth donation from an unknown person. I knew some friends and family would be willing to help me out, but I never thought strangers would reach out and help me.

While it may seem like it’s not that different than donating a few bucks at the grocery store checkout counter, or throwing a few coins in the Salvation Army Santa’s bucket, it is to me. Receiving $100 from someone who doesn’t know me, or my life, brings tears to my eyes.

The fact that they asked for nothing in return, no favor, no debt paid back, no strings, and just gave that money out of the goodness of their hearts… it’s beautiful. They didn’t tell me I had to “earn” their respect, their love, their support. They gave it freely, knowing they will likely never meet me, or even talk to me. They gave it to be supportive, because they saw someone who needed help.

And of course I’m not saying that any of the other people that have very generously donated asked for anything in return either. It makes me so happy to see that there are people out there that are so generous and supportive of me and my struggle. It makes me feel like they all are sharing the journey with me. And more importantly, that they want to.

I guess today I am just overwhelmed by the generosity of people. Of my friends who have graciously donated; of my mom’s friends who have reached out to help their friends daughter, some of them having never met me either; to my family members, near and far, some even on different continents; and to the strangers who gave so openly.

Thank you.

Thank you for showing your love for all the right reasons, and for never asking me to earn it from you.

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Hospitals are scary

As part of my ongoing treatments, I often have to take several trips to the hospital. For a long time these trips were just visits to the ER when the pain was unbearable or I was having trouble breathing. And when I say often… well it was more like 2-3 times a year. But, as my disease becomes more aggressive by  the day, and my body continually turns against me, I find myself making more frequent “trips”.

At the end of April I found myself in the ER late one night with unbearable side pain. I was terrified that it was going to be appendicitis or something else requiring surgery. One of my biggest fears of being at the hospital is finding myself in a circumstance of being put under. I’ve read every story out there of patients not waking up from general anesthesia, or worse, being under but paralyzed, and yet feeling everything.

The nature of my disease, and being sick all the time, is that when I’m at the ER they always find something new. On that particular occasion the side pain was due to a compression fracture in my spine. Oh goody. They took CATscans, X-Rays, blood tests, and an ultra sound. This fateful visit to the hospital was how we were able to find the cancer. Had we not taken that scan, I may have gone months, maybe even years, without treating my Lymphoma. So in a way, the ER saved me a bit.

Because of an unknown chest pain issue I’ve been having I was referred to a GI doctor recently. And his unfortunate diagnosis was that I had esophagus issues and that we should do an Endoscopy. And hey let’s kill two birds with one stone and take a biopsy of the tumor currently taking up residence on the outside of my esophagus/stomach junction.  For those of you that don’t know what an endoscopy is… It’s a procedure in which they stick a camera on a tube and push it down your throat to look at the inside of your esophagus. Didn’t seem to scary to me until I heard I would have to be put under. Are you kidding me?

So, two weeks ago my mom and I took the trip down to Queens Medical Center so that doctors could have a look-see at my insides. I wasn’t allowed to eat or drink anything for 12 hours prior to the procedure so that nothing would be able to “come up”. My time slot wasn’t until 2:30, and with Mom deciding to fast with me, we were two very grumpy ladies by the time we got to the hospital.  Upon being admitted, I was only allowed a very small sip of water to take my midday medications with. Not being able to eat anything was pretty frustrating, but the hardest part is no fluids. My mouth was like sandpaper, my lips were dry and chapped, cracking if I opened my mouth too wide.

After taking my vitals, and having me change into yet another fashionable hospital gown, I was put to bed in a sense, and told I had to lay down until it was time to go home. A painful IV application, and an exhausting medical history followed until finally it was my turn to go in. And that’s when the all-consuming anxiety started. This is when good bedside manner really plays an important role in patient care.

I was wheeled into what was possibly the scariest hospital room I’ve ever been in. It was filled with big machines with many tubes, and cold metal trays with creepy looking implements on them. I don’t understand why I had to be awake to see that room. They should put you out before entering this room.

Without any warning, a bitter cherry-flavored spray was pushed into my mouth, causing me to choke and gag. I dry heaved several times, before finally getting it down and taking large gulps of air. Only to have it forced on me three more times. A numbing agent, they told me, once I stopped gagging for the final time. I wouldn’t have had a problem with that had they only given me a little heads up before violating my mouth. That’s when the real fun started. My head was strapped to the bed, my hands and arms bound at my side. There has got to be a better way to do this that doesn’t cause all consuming panic for the patient. Did I really have to be awake for  that??

Finally the surgeon came in and said hello, revealing that it was my GI doctor, the man who insisted I go through this nightmare to begin with. I started to say hello, but as soon as I opened my mouth the nurse jammed a hard green plastic spreader in. I felt my already chapped lips crack instantly. Had my mouth and throat not been numbed by the cherry death, I’m sure I would have tasted blood. The doctor then asked me a question which seemed ridiculous since there was no way I could answer with the plastic piece in my mouth. I mumbled a reply and then I was out.

The next time I opened my eyes I was back in the recovery room where I had left Mom. She was dozing on a chair next to my bed. A glance at the clock and I figured I was probably out for about 40 mins. My mouth, still sandpaper dry, was no longer numb, but my throat burned like I had Strep. A lovely nurse brought me a couple of single serving cups of POG, which I drank down in record tine, and a funky looking bar in brown paper wrapping. I don’t know if it was actually tasty, or my hunger fueled the flavor, but that blueberry snack bar tasted like one of the best baked goods I’d ever eaten. I shared it with Mom since she had fasted with me in support.

All I could think was “Thank goodness that’s over and I never have to do that ever ever again!”

Unfortunately, the next night I found myself back in the ER, with “complications” from the procedure, which was just a fancy way of saying I couldn’t breathe. And like I said before, we always find something new when we go to the ER. It may not be what I came in for, but I always leave with a new diagnosis. The CATscan I received that night showed fluid in my lungs. Great. Pneumonia. Possibly. ER’s hate to diagnose, so it’s always “talk to your PCP for more conclusive results”. Which is their way of saying ” We don’t want this on us”.

A few days ago at my GI doctors office, we received the findings from the procedure. The tumor was benign, leaving only the lymphoma in my upper chest to worry about. Little steps. Progress. That’s all I can ask for. But still, no reason found for this weird chest pain… My doctor was not happy. Especially with the newly found fluid in my lungs. So now I have to be referred to a Pulmonologist. Yet another doctor to add to the roster. And what to do about this continued chest pain, he mused.

“You know what,” he said, “I’m not convinced. Let’s do another Endoscopy.”

I’m sorry, WHAT?!

Oh, hell no.

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